ON AND OFF AGAIN RELATIONSHIPS, WHY IT HAPPENS
Romantic breakups are commonly filled with grief, hardship, and self-negativity. Still for a few couples, breaking-up is part of their relational system. They remain together, time flies, things do not work, they break-up and then they again try it. Thinking It might be different this time or maybe it is. But it’s often not. On-again and off-again. It keeps repeating. Relationships with a history of breaking up and getting back together are what relationship scientists termed it as cyclical relationships.
It’s confusing. Why do people repeatedly return to the same relationship when it never seems to be working? Is there something magnetic about the relationship? Is there something about certain people? Or is it something completely different, like structural forces that could encourage people to be together and stop them from easily leaving?
In this article, Delhi’s eminent relationships expert and marriage counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo talks about on and off again relationships, why it happens.
It’s Not Because of Their Relationship Quality
Relationships having a break-up history is not of higher quality than non-cyclical relationships. It’s a logical theorem: maybe the love, emotional attachment, and general satisfaction experienced in certain relationships entice people to keep going back to them. This doesn’t seem to be the scenario; in fact, consistent proof shows that relationships with cycling, history is of poorer quality than non-cyclical relationships.
Persistent Feelings Re-Start Relationships
Even if the intimacy, passion, and love when dating isn’t as potent as non-cyclical relationships, what happens when a couple breaks up might be the reason they stay together. After a break-up, feelings of love, nostalgia, and…